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SYMPHONY OF LIFE

When I woke up in the Intensive Care Unit hooked up to a life support machine, missing my legs and severely broken body, I knew my life would never be the same. When I returned home and faced the devastation of what this crash brought me to, it felt as though every part of my being wailed begging someone to tell me that what I was experiencing was not true. When people learned about the tragedy, I kept hearing their thoughts – the car accident broke my destiny.

But I could not accept it. And I refused to agree with it! I told them that my destiny would be the way I wanted it, and not how this crash planned it. I would break limitations, break through those obstacles and create a new life. I trusted that with God nothing is impossible, no matter how hopeless it seemed.

Today I praise my God for the inner strength and His blessing – my life has completely transformed! I could not even dream of how the Lord blessed my new life. Rejoicing at this, I want to reach your heart and ignite hope.

Please hear me, it’s not the hurt or betrayals that broke into your life or the devastation that you faced what ultimately will create your destiny. But, it’s God’s will for your life and your choices what you do with all that happened will have the last say about your destiny.

You are the conductor of a symphony called Life. God gave us the notes and the instruction on how to create a beautiful melody. He also gave us the freedom of a choice what we are going to do with those notes and instructions. Now, it’s our personal choices that will create a melody of our lives’ symphony.

Our choices…
• To believe and not to believe

• To follow God’s instructions and a choice not to (in other words to improvise your symphony)

• People with whom we choose to spend our time and have friendships or, who we choose to be our second-half

• To stop our certain activities or end relations with someone before it’s too late and a choice not to do anything about it

• What we do with the time given to us. Will we use the time to achieve something or will we waste it?

• To take advantage of opportunities and a choice to let them pass by us

• To fight for our happiness and a choice to go with a flow and remain idle

• To be a victim and blame someone/something for our unhappiness and a choice to accept the responsibility and be determined to create the life that we desire no matter what

• To listen to the fear or possible disappointment and a choice to trust and take that chance

• To listen to the inspiration and act on it and a choice to push it aside and do nothing

• To make an effort and a choice to do what’s easier

• To be committed and persevere and a choice to quit when your motivation fades away and it becomes difficult

• To love, to forgive and a choice to hold on to your bitterness

• To help someone and a choice to ignore

• To never give up and be unstoppable no matter how hard it gets, and a choice to give up

All these choices… By making your choices you conduct your symphony called Your Life. By sharing my experiences in my book and every time I speak, I want to inspire you to be careful and thoughtful when you make your choices. I don’t have all the answers to many questions about destiny. But what I do know is that our own daily choices and decisions create subsequent events and ultimately direct our destiny.

Sometimes one choice – one single decision – can literally direct our life journey in one or another direction. Also, consistent choices we make compounded over time deliver their results as well. They may seem insignificant because at the time they make no radical difference in your life. They may not even appear like choices. But they are. And, those little choices repeated on a continuous basis over time soon will deliver their results. Every time we decide to do or not to do something is a choice.

We stand at the crossroads many times in life. They might not even feel like crossroads; yet, they are, because by making a decision we go to the left or to the right. Therefore, before you make those choices or make a decision, ask yourself where your choice will bring you ultimately.

There are many things I don’t understand about God. And I do not claim to understand everything in the Bible. But I know the Lord and He knows me. I’ve learned that our destiny will greatly depend on whether we choose life in obedience before the Lord God or life according to our own lusts, desires, and ways. What I do know is that living in a righteous way before the Lord God and trusting Him wholeheartedly at all times is going to bring a much more secure, fulfilling and purposeful life.

Deuteronomy 30: 19-20: “I call heaven and earth as witnesses today against you, that I have set before you life and death, blessing and cursing; therefore choose life, that both you and your descendants may live; that you may love the Lord your God, that you may obey His voice, and that you may cling to Him, for He is your life and the length of your days.”

We all have choices, and we are going to have what we choose. So, I invite you to take a deep breath with me. Choose life! Let’s continue on creating the lives that the Lord has called us to live.
Life is not a rehearsal. You get to do it only once.

Always remember, it’s not what people do to you or what happens to you that ultimately will create your destiny. It’s God’s will for your life and your personal choices what you are going to do with all that happens what will create your life’s symphony.
Make it beautiful! 

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Posted by on March 13, 2019 in Uncategorized

 

Who Will Design Your 2019?

Happy New Year!

As we begin a new year, we all are determined and enthusiastic and hoping this year will be a better year. And then, we get into a routine of daily to-dos, challenges, problems…

Who will end up designing your 2019? Random outside events? …Or YOU?

If you won’t be in charge of how your days go and which direction your year will take, then random events and circumstances will be in charge of your year. You will end up just reacting to whatever happens in your life.

You know, for many years I thought that my life depended on what my circumstances allowed me to do and to experience. I did not really have any aspirations, and I didn’t even think about any goals. I did not even have the concept of having a vision of what I wanted to achieve and deliberately creating what I wanted in my life. My understanding was that my life just depends on whatever happens on a day-to-day basis. With that mindset, I was going nowhere, only daily reacting to random events and the outside world’s impact on my life.

I lived this way until I got into the car accident and my life was brutally changed. Only then I learned that there is another way to live – you can design your life. You can set your mind on what you want to accomplish in your life and deliberately begin fulfilling it. I didn’t know then that this is what I was going to do. I just despised what the crash has created and I deliberately began changing my circumstances. I did what I had never done – I decided what I wanted in order to feel happy, set goals that would lead me to my vision and began living with intention. With time, by achieving one goal after another, I totally changed my life.

Now I know – Life is what you make it. And it begins with your awareness and decision to live with intention.

Don’t allow random outside events to design your year! YOU take the lead.

How? First, ask yourself what you really want.

  • What would make your year meaningful and purposeful?
  • What needs to happen for you to feel confident, truly happy and content?
  • What needs to change so you feel better about yourself and your life?
  • Is there anything you would like to do, to learn or challenge yourself and achieve?
  • What would make your life exciting and fulfilling?
  • What do you think the Lord wants you to fulfill?

Once you know exactly what you want, make a strategy how you’re going to make it happen. What are the possible ways to achieve it? What goals would bring you to your vision? You might say it’s impossible. But please hear me. I’ve been there. The life that I get to live today is not a mere coincidence nor am I just a lucky one. I deliberately aimed for it. And when I started planning how to change my circumstances and restore my life after the car accident, it was hard to even consider that my vision was possible. I was advised many times to think realistically – what I wanted was simply not possible. All circumstances were against me. Everywhere I looked there were tremendous difficulties and unchangeable obstacles in front of me.

But I knew that with God’s help I could change those circumstances. And indeed, when my efforts seemed powerless, the Lord stepped in and in the most incredible way, He arranged favorable situations, connected me with people who were willing to help me, and He created new opportunities where there seemed none. It was unbelievable! What you can’t do the Lord will. Just trust Him. Those who trust in the Lord will never be ashamed. But you need to be bold and step out of your comfort zone and design your year by living on purpose.

Live with intention every day. Always keep in mind where you are headed and be consistent in your efforts to achieve your aspiration. Big changes don’t happen overnight nor does success suddenly show up as ‘Luck’. It takes time. It takes relentless work. It’s your daily choices to make the effort and consistent actions compounded will deliver the successful result.

Please understand – you are the author of your life story. Your year and your life are in your hands, not in the hands of your circumstances or random outside events. With God’s help, you can have an incredible life.

Live with intention.  Make your 2019 an extraordinary year!

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Posted by on January 8, 2019 in Uncategorized

 

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How to be Steadfast and Embrace Hardships? 

It is not that easy to be thankful in difficult times, is it? We might feel perplexed, frustrated and angry when things don’t go the way we want them to, right? Feeling lost and anxious we may ask “God, where are you? Why are You slow to help me?”

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Over the 25 years of my faith journey, I had encountered quite a few of these situations. Over the many years of my walk with the Lord and my recovery from the adversity after losing nearly half of my body, I have been learning how to have unwavering faith in all circumstances and have a grateful mindset no matter what’s going on in life. It greatly empowered me and I am very eager to share it with others. I will speak about it in the upcoming event “Steady & Thankful in the Midst of the Storm” in San Francisco.
It’s a Free event, click on the link to find out more details:
http://becomingunstoppable.org/upcoming-events/

When I started focusing not on the problem itself and how difficult it was but instead was observing what was behind events and circumstances and where they ultimately brought me, time and time again I got to see a mystery – events that occurred, problems, hardships, people whom I met, circumstances that I didn’t like, not receiving the desired answers to my prayers, and experiences I went through played a critical role in my life, and to my surprise, all of it really worked together for the good, as it’s written in Romans 8:28.
“And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are the called according to His purpose.” (Romans 8:28 NKJV)
I experience this phenomenon time and time again and today, I have so many testimonies which show that all things work together for good to those who love God and are the called according to His purpose, is really true.

Even though it was not easy to go through those difficulties, they left a valuable imprint on my life. What’s more interesting, the strangest thing was to realize that particularly those events that seemed destructive or seemed like endless hardships, actually brought me to my ultimate dream! The funny thing is that even my mistakes had a great value in my life. In fact, I needed to make those mistakes, because they made changes deep within me and taught me some very valuable lessons which I would not have gained otherwise. Problems, difficulties, pain, and failures to attain some goals, hopelessness, and all that I experienced were for my benefit. Going through hardships and seeing God’s faithfulness at all times, I have learned to get rid of stress, fear, or anxiety. Realizing that the difficulty worked for my good surprised me each and every time. Today I am very grateful for everything.

During the event on Dec 1st (details here: http://becomingunstoppable.org/upcoming-events/)
I have a full program of testimonies and practical knowledge on how to be steadfast no matter what’s going on in your life. But I want to share with you some tips now. You can also read a full blog about it by following the link below, and on my website subscribe to receive my messages.
http://becomingunstoppable.org/…/how-to-be-steady-and-than…/

Before you react to a situation and let negative feelings overpower you, stop yourself. Step back and look at the situation from a different viewpoint. Respond to the situation by controlling what you see. It’s your viewpoint that will determine what it means to you, how you feel about it and what you’re going to do about it. So, it’s critical to be in charge of your mindset and your perspective the way you look at life. Your conscious and unconscious beliefs will lay the foundation for your viewpoint. Pay close attention to your beliefs that come from your culture, religion, your experience or people you respect and trust. The good thing is that we can choose our beliefs. It’s nothing more than what we hold to be true.

Choose your response based on your faith.
How? Think about it – in the Scriptures, reading the book of Job, we clearly see that Satan cannot do more than what God allows him to do in the life of a person who loves God and lives righteously before the Lord. In Matthew 10:29-31 we see that nothing can happen in your life without Father’s will; even hairs on your head are counted. And, If you love God (which means you live according to God’s commandments, John 14:21) and are called according to His purpose, then somehow God will make this work out for your good. (Romans 8:28)

You can shape your viewpoint based on the word of God: whatever is going on is not more than what Father allowed. And if God allowed this situation in your life, so there is some purpose in it. So, instead of becoming anxious and fearful for your future, trust your God. Our faith is tested in difficult times. He’s watching over you. Knowing that it’s not more than what the Lord allowed and there is a purpose behind it, and it all will work out for your good in the end, ask yourself what might be the purpose. What’s the good side of this situation?

Naturally, we tend to focus on the problem and constantly think about how difficult and how painful it is and how much we don’t like it. I encourage you to see the purpose behind it and focus on the possible solution instead of focusing on the problem itself. When you put on sunglasses, what you see doesn’t change but changes how you see it, right? Replace your sunglasses with glasses of faith and look at your circumstances through the eyes of faith.

See, the Lord often allows difficulties and doesn’t make it easier right away because He’s working with our heart, He’s teaching us things we need to learn. Some things can be learned and gained only through difficulties. I experienced that problems, obstacles, and despair are great teachers. At times the Lord tests our faith and our faithfulness. The vessel goes through the molding and the fire before it is used. If you look at what benefit you can find in difficulties, what’s the good side of your difficulty – you will be amazed how much good you will see. In the end, you will be truly thankful for it. I am today.

What about you? Have you experienced difficulties, which you are thankful for?

Until next time,

Inga

 

 
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Posted by on November 14, 2018 in Uncategorized

 

What Happens When You Surrender Your Plans To The Lord

Daily duties, jobs, interests, friends, world news, and social media bombard us daily and we don’t even realize that while we consider ourselves living in faith, often we leave our time for the Lord to be the last. We postpone our prayer or reading His word to a later time, to whenever we have a free moment. Unfortunately, the Lord ends up to be the last one who gets our attention. There are so many exciting things around us! And, the Lord is pushed aside, waiting for us to finally have time for Him to hear what He has to say to us.

When I think of it, you know what comes to my mind? My biggest decisions which highly impacted my life and even directed my destiny and career were born in the prayer, reading the Bible, or inspirational books. And, they were the best decisions I have made.

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Once, after my prayer to God to direct my heart to that choice which will be better for me, the Lord changed my decision radically. That decision literally changed the course of my life and, it was a much better decision than I first thought of making. Later I saw that I would have made a huge mistake if I proceeded with the initial decision, even if at that time logically thinking it seemed that it was the best choice.

Since then, I began spending more time in the prayer asking the Lord to direct me and guide me. When I needed to make a decision, I would pray for the Lord to give me peace for the choice I needed to make. When I had a vision of something I wanted to implement in my life, I would ask God to direct me and help me to fulfill it if that was His will. When I had specific plans for something, I would ask the Lord to give me wisdom and knowledge on how to fulfill those plans successfully, to send me people who would help me and bless my work so I would successfully achieve my goals. Basically, every time I wanted to fulfill my vision and implement my plans or achieve any goals, I would bring it in my prayer before the Lord asking for His guidance and His blessing.

And, I am so grateful I did! The Lord always answered and directed me which way I needed to go. Truth to be told, I avoided more mistakes only because I prayed about it. In addition, my plans would be fulfilled successfully, often it seemed as though the invisible force was assisting me to achieve successful results.

The Lord says it in His word for us to come to Him with our plans, vision of something we want to implement, or choices that we face so He could direct our thoughts, and decisions and bless us in fulfilling them. My life became so much easier and better once I started practicing these verses from the Scriptures!

Commit your works to the Lord,
And your thoughts will be established. (Proverbs 16:3 NKJV)
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Commit your way to the Lord,
Trust also in Him,
And He shall bring it to pass. (Psalm 37:5)

The only thing that stands in a way at times is this daily rush to get things done. I was just recently so caught up in everything that was happening in my life, it totally devoured me, and I spent much less time in the prayer talking with the Lord. Even though I saw what was going on, it seemed like I couldn’t get out of that daily whirlwind of nonstop ‘busyness’. One day, the Lord used an acquaintance that called me and during our conversation said to me “The Lord wants you to be close to Him so you get His direction and guidance. You need to be close to Him.” The friend had no idea why he was saying this to me, but I knew. I heard what I needed to hear.

Today I am inspired to share this with you. It’s a noisy world we live in. Where is the Lord in your daily life?

Be well, Inga

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Posted by on September 11, 2018 in Uncategorized

 

7 Steps How to Create the Life You Desire

I wanted to share with you something that might be life changing for you, as it was for me 16 years ago.

As I am getting closer to the day when I step into a new phase in my life, fully devoting myself to my calling and passion to help others overcome and achieve the lives they’re longing to live, this week I wanted to share with you something that might be life changing for you, as it was for me 16 years ago. And then, I have a gift for you – my model “7 Steps Forward”, a roadmap for changing your current circumstances and creating the life you desire.

Time after time I hear people saying “Well, that’s just how my life is.” Their sad eyes reflect their belief that circumstances are stronger than they are and that there is nothing much they could do about it. And, they settle for the life they have even though they are miserable. I still remember the time when I felt trapped by circumstances. I was so deeply depressed that I wished I didn’t even exist. But there was a day when I grasped one thing and that was a turning point in my life. Since then, I began intentionally to take action to change my circumstances, and my story evolved in an amazing way. My life transformed.
If you are not happy how your life goes and you also feel trapped in your current circumstances, this message is for you today.

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When I decided to start changing my life, I was in a dark and desperate place.  At the age of 22, overnight my life has brutally changed. More about what had happened, you can read in my earlier written “Stay committed to your decision and never, never give up”

At the time, losing nearly half of my body meant losing my life.  At the time Vilnius city was not accessible for people in wheelchairs, and that meant that I no longer could leave my home, go to the city or anywhere. I became literally imprisoned by the walls of my own home. My life turned into a dull and painful existence. The scariest thing was knowing that we couldn’t do anything to change the situation. Losing legs was not like getting a cut on your finger. It was a horrifying agonizing experience of the sudden change. Without me even realizing it, I stepped on a quicksand of deep depression. But, praise the Lord, there was a day when the despair was replaced by hope and a new vision.

I will never forget that beautiful sunny day when I realized that if I did not like how my life was – I could change it. Nothing – no accident, pain, challenges due to my changed physical condition, nor any other problems were going to rule how I felt and how I would continue my life journey.

Those desperate circumstances were created by the event – the car accident. So, if the circumstances and my life’s conditions could be changed by certain events, then by taking the initiative and action I could create a different kind of events and change my circumstances again! I didn’t have to give in and settle for what was created by the crash!

That moment something deep inside of me has shifted. Instead of continuing to live in despair and depression that my life was restricted by circumstances that the crash has created, I realized that there was no limit to what I want to create in my life – by taking an intentional action I could deliberately create circumstances that I desired. And, I believed with God’s help I was going to get out of this horrible place in my life.

I felt strong and determined to change my living conditions. I decided not to waste my time and not to allow the unknown to make me doubt, but take the initiative and start making changes to get myself out of the “dead-end”.

I asked myself what needs to happen, how my life needs to be for me to feel happy again. Then, I asked myself solution-oriented questions, determined my long term and short term goals, and strategized what exactly I needed to do to start the process.

First, I set the goals that helped me gain my independence back on a daily routine, along with the ability to walk wearing artificial legs.  Local prosthetic specialists tried to ensure me that in my physical condition of bilateral above the knee amputee and having one arm paralyzed it was impossible to walk wearing prosthetic legs. At that time I knew that the only way to change circumstances that made me depressed was to walk again so I would be able to get out my home and go to work again. I was ready to break through any obstacles to make it happen. So I told specialists that I would walk and would even dance, and they would see it.

In spite of much advice – to come to terms with a “disabled lifestyle” – I researched online about prosthetic legs worldwide, emailing prosthetic companies. My relentless perseverance to walk again brought me all the way to California, USA. Thanks to an American prosthetic specialist, who believed that my dream was possible and decided to help me, I fulfilled my vow. I walked and even danced, just as I said I would.

Then, a year later I moved across the globe from my family in Lithuania, EU and established my life in the United States even though at the time of my decision I had no place to live, no work, not a lot of money, and even no right to live and work in America. I always held my vision in my mind no matter what was going on in my life, and consistently worked toward my goals. A beautiful dream, which seemed impossible at the time, has become my reality.

Last night, as I was having my time of gratitude to the Lord, in my mind I stepped back and looked at my life from a bigger perspective. Just remembering where I began my journey and where my life is now, I was in awe. How incredibly my life has transformed! How great my God is!

I still remember very well those days when a full dynamic life having my physical limitations seemed impossible. I was told many times that I was aiming for goals that were simply unrealistic. It did seem like outrageous ambitions and yet, I believed there would come a day when I’d implement my dreams.  And, it’s been over a decade now that I live my dream.

The outrageous ambition is my life today –  I live a dynamic life residing in beautiful California, across the globe from my home country, am self-sufficient, work, build relationships with people, travel even more than I ever did prior the crash. Furthermore, I just fulfilled another impossible goal – published my book “Unstoppable. It’s a Choice”. And now, my eyes are set on another vision – creating my business Becoming Unstoppable, LLC to fulfill my promise to the Lord and help other people break through their hardships and create the lives they’re longing to live. It’s mind-boggling!

Please hear me – you can change your current circumstances if you are not happy with them. Current circumstances were created by your own choices made earlier. The same way, by making different choices and taking action, you can create different circumstances. Maybe you are dealing with some events you could not control. But remember, your life is in your hands, not in the hands of your circumstances. Your choice of what you are going to do about them from now on will determine your future events, and maybe even your destiny. Do not allow them to be in charge. It’s up to you to take charge of your circumstances and your life.

You are the author of your life story. You can pick up a pen and change your next Chapter. You can change it at any time. Even today. Even this moment can be fateful for you if you make the decision to open a new page and start writing in it what you want.

This is your life, your story, and nobody is going to create it for you, except you.

If you ask yourself “OK, but how can I possibly change my life? Where do I begin?”

I want to share with you the model that I personally used to transform my life so you can begin your journey anytime, even today. On the right side of my personal web page find and get “7 Steps Forward” How to Create the Life you Desire, which will be your roadmap.

If at any point you would like me to personally coach you, please don’t hesitate to contact me.

And, if you would like more practical tools that could guide you in your journey, I encourage you to read my book“Unstoppable. It’s a Choice” There I included all practical tools how to be strong, how to overcome, break through and achieve.

I hope this will give you a sparkle of hope and challenge your beliefs and expand your vision of what’s possible in your life. Remember, you can begin making changes even today. I will continue sharing messages to inspire and equip you with practical tools.

Meanwhile, be strong. Believe that with God all things are possible. Only you need to take initiative.

What will be your first step?

Inga

 
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Posted by on August 19, 2018 in Uncategorized

 

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My Book “UNSTOPPABLE. It’s a Choice” published

Greetings Friends,

I know I did not post anything for a while. It has been an extremely busy time lately. There are many changes! Before I continue, I want to announce that I moved my blog to my new website http://becomingunstoppable.org

I encourage you to go to the website and subscribe there, so you receive my blog messages and updates. I probably will be discontinuing blog here, so visit my new website and subscribe, so we can continue the journey together.

There you will find Blog as well as videos from my interviews and speaking events, information about the book, photos, and information about public speaking and coaching services I offer.

In my Blog, I will share messages of inspiration, faith and some self-management tools that will strengthen your faith, empower you to handle your own challenges and will equip you to break through the obstacles, while you are in the process of creating the life you are longing to live.

In the Menu, you will see the Blog tab, which separates into two separate categories – Faith & Stories of Answered Prayers and Self Management /Life Coaching.

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The great news is that my book ‘Unstoppable. It’s a Choice’ is now PUBLISHED! I began receiving feedback and reviews from readers. Friends, I don’t know if I am still dreaming or is it really true that my manuscript is an actual book. I must tell you that my road to this moment was long and even painful at times. My seven-year writing journey began when my brother’s cry for help reached me.

In April of 2007, I received a text message from my brother, which shook me to the core of my being. It was very disturbing. I knew something really bad had happened. As I was wondering what I could do to help him, a clear thought came to me “Write him a letter.” It was an inspiration/direction that I needed to write him about my own recovery after the car accident; write about the source of my inner strength and tenacity, how I was able to not give up no matter how hopeless it seemed, and what was behind my successful achievement of goals that others claimed to be impossible. Even though my brother was by my side for many years and watched me making decisions and working toward my goals, he never knew the reasons behind my relentless perseverance, which ultimately brought me to the life that seemed impossible to ever attain. And now, I was inspired to tell it all to help my brother not to give up and recover from his own adversity.

I never considered I could write well. But my love for my brother and urging feeling that I needed to do that won my insecurity. So I got on my computer and wrote him a long open conversation from my heart. My brother responded very positively to my offer to write him letters and asked me to keep writing. So I did. After a while, brother opened up to me that he was in such dark hopeless place that he didn’t see the way out. Even thoughts of suicide began coming to him with persistence. But now, he got out of hopelessness and had the hope and direction in life. “My little son still has his daddy alive because of your letters, Inga. Continue writing and publish a book to help other people,” he added.

I never thought I could write a book. But, I decided to write and publish it, just as brother encouraged me. I believed if this saves the life of at least one more person, if it makes a difference to someone else, it will be all worth it. I did not have the editor nor did I have the money to publish it. But, I believed it all would come when it’s time to publish it; I just needed to do the work – write it. So, I began working on it using every free time-frame to write. There were many difficulties and obstacles to complete this book and publish it. It was a long seven-year consistent and relentless work to bring this book into existence.  And indeed, when the manuscript for the book was complete, everything necessary for the book to be published came – everything came at the same time. It’s just incredible how the Lord provided!

It turned out that when I was ready to edit the manuscript and was wondering where I could find a good professional editor, at that time the company where I work at as a Public Relations person, hired a temporary contractor for certain project. And, to my surprise, Bob was a seasoned professional editor and has worked with the former President of the U.S. and other known public figures and companies. Shortly after his arrival, Bob agreed to edit my book once the funds arrive.

I needed $10.000 to cover editing and publishing expenses, and I had no idea where I could get the funds from. So, in my prayer I brought my need before the Lord, asking Him to help me with funding if it’s the right time for me to publish this book. Few weeks since the prayer, I met for lunch with an acquaintance of mine, who after hearing my updates on the book, a week later handed me an envelope with a check for $10.000 saying “I know this money belongs to your Unstoppable. Go ahead, edit it and publish it to bring it to the world.”

The Lord doesn’t stop astounding me! And, He showed it again – all things are possible for Him. Circumstances, money, people’s hearts… everything is in God’s hands. What is required of us is obedience to His voice and faithfulness to the work that He entrusts us to do. And the rest… whatever seems impossible becomes very possible when the Lord provides.
I put all my heart into this work. I wrote it with love and much care, revealing my true story. Beginning with the story of my car crash, I share how difficult the recovery process was after losing my legs and the use of my left arm. I share what gave me hope and determination to restore my life. Going against circumstances and opinions of others, I aimed for goals that seemed beyond my grasp. Finally, I traveled independently from Europe to the U.S. to implement my dream. The narrative is intertwined with a love story that brought me even more emotional anguish than the car accident. At that point, I felt totally broken and no longer had I the strength or desire to fight for my life. But, I had to ask myself whether I was going to allow other people’s choices to break me and my destiny. I made the choice to get up and continue on. With the Lord’s help, I picked myself up, returned to the US and continued pursuing the life I desired to live.

While I was writing this book, I saw how my decisions not to give up and be unstoppable in my pursuit totally transformed those tragedies and hardships that I faced. It really shows that it’s not what happens to us and not other people’s choices determine our future, but our decision what we’re going to do with it all that ultimately determines our destiny. The entire book shows the power of our decisions that are made by us, once we stand at the crossroads of a choice.

The book includes my real letters to my bother, which are written in a coaching style. So while sharing my story, I coach the reader, who is facing any type of difficulties and desires to improve his or her life.

Be it a life-altering adversity in your life, or this monster called depression, obstacles that make your goals hard to reach, bad decisions in the past or any hardships that you face, reading the book you will find a roadmap how to trust the Lord in the midst of troubles, how to overcome depression and thrive again, how to break through hardships, overcome obstacles and achieve any goals, ultimately creating the life you desire.

My hope and aim for this book are to inspire, encourage, ignite faith, and give practical knowledge that will equip the reader to overcome and succeed.

Some of the reviews can be found on my website http://becomingunstoppable.org/about-the-book/reviews/
The book is available on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, GoodReads.

 

Now that my book is published, I follow my calling and purpose to fulfill my promise to God which I made 17 years ago, and reach out my hand to those who are struggling and going through hardships, who desire to improve their lives but don’t know how, who experienced adversity and need to recover from pain and continue on.

I and my friend and Associate Anzhelika Polyak (another Lithuanian, whom I met in San Francisco in one of the events where I was a guest speaker at the Christian Church)  are establishing a company ‘Becoming Unstoppable’, which has a mission to make a difference in people’s lives by bringing the message of hope, sharing a personal testimony of the living God’s power to restore the broken and turn the impossible into possible. Along with the message about faith, Becoming Unstoppable shares practical guidance and self-management strategies/tools to empower people to keep on going and break through any circumstances to create the lives they’re longing to have.

Since my car accident, I have done a number of public speaking engagements and interviews in Lithuania and in the United States for TV programs, radio and publications for inspirational purposes and I am looking forward to continuing sharing my message.

If you would be interested in having me as a guest speaker, please connect with me.

I can be reached via Admin@BecomingUnstoppable.org, or my information can be found on the website www.BecomingUnstoppable.org

 

These are my updates. I hope, reading my message you were encouraged.

By for now, hope to see you on the Becoming Unstoppable!

 

Inga

 

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How to be Resilient, How to Recover from the Adversity? Step 3. Your Focus.

How to be Resilient, How to Recover from the Adversity? Step 3. Your Focus.

Focus on what you have and what you can do. Focus on the solution, not the problem.

After the affliction or generally during hardships, it is crucial to be aware of your thought patterns, what you are focused on. Naturally, we grieve and are longing for that which was lost. And yes, we do need that time to grieve. It is important though not to stay there longer than we need. At some point, it’s imperative for the focus to be shifted away from the tragedy to the newness, from the problem to the solution, from the limitations to abilities and opportunities. What you focus on will have a significant impact on your journey to recovery.

While we’re going through a hardship, normally we don’t think about what’s far ahead because we are focused on what’s going on at the moment, how we feel at that time. Would you agree that naturally, we think about the problem, often focused on analyzing how difficult it is rather on our ultimate destination?

But it is imperative to keep our ultimate destination in mind, not the problem. How many times have you heard sayings like, “I got bombarded by so many problems that I didn’t have the energy to continue,” or, “The challenges I encountered were too much to bear,” or, “I got so tired that I just couldn’t do this anymore.” And you find out that they gave up on something they were just recently passionate about. There might be different reasons why they gave up on their pursuit, but overall it all comes to the same point: their difficulty overpowered them. For the most part – because they put so much attention to how difficult it was – more attention was paid to the challenge than on the ultimate goal. When we face any difficult situation, what will determine what’s next is:

  • How you are going to look at the situation (choosing the perspective),
  • What you are going to focus on, and,
  • What you are going to do about it.

I believe putting your focus on the wrong aspect of the situation is one of the fastest roads toward failure. It’s very easy to give up when you focus on the obstacle or difficulty you are facing. Why? I am sure you have noticed in your life – the more you think about the bad situation and how difficult and painful it is, the worse it seems. Negative thoughts become more and more dominant and darker, and your problem snowballs into something bigger and more challenging. It reaches the point to where it seems irresolvable and you might say to yourself, “I can’t do this.” And here you are, you have arrived at a different destination that you first intended to.

I want to share an excerpt from my upcoming book “Unstoppable. It’s a Choice”, one of those special moments that set a direction of my journey of recovery.

“I don’t remember exactly when this happened, but it was soon after this marveling revelation. One day my mom and I were walking outside enjoying the beautiful spring day and we saw a young guy in an electric wheelchair, sitting alone, enjoying the weather as we were. We walked up to him to chat. He was approximately my age and he was completely paralyzed up to his neck. He was not able to use his legs or his arms and he had a hard time speaking. Like mine, his life had changed in a heartbeat when he got beaten up by a gang, resulting in total and permanent paralysis. This young and handsome guy was sitting in a wheelchair with no ability to move his body, even having difficulty speaking. Were that not enough, his family had abandoned him, forcing him to stay at various Rehab Centers and nursing homes, all the while being taken care of by strangers. As he was sharing his story, a thought came to my mind “See? You could’ve been in his place. That is what Rose was talking about.”

That moment it seemed as though the entire world has stopped. Suddenly, the astonishment of my new revelation of how well it ended for me overshadowed the horror of my loss. “I am so blessed! In addition to the miracle of not breaking my neck, though I had a strong head injury, I can think clearly, I can express myself easily, and I can move!”

I wanted to shout out with happiness. It seemed like my eyes were opened and I saw with clarity how fortunate I was. While talking with the young man, my mind was captured by the astonishing facts of my blessings. All I felt was gratitude. After we ended our conversation, my mom and I continued walking toward the lake. I was completely astounded with what I had just realized.

“Wait a minute,” I thought. “I have a clear mind and I can communicate. And while I do not remember many things due to the brain injury, I can think and express myself the way I did prior to the accident. I still have my right arm functioning. What if I still can be independent? I could learn how to do things with one arm, and then I could take care of myself independently. I can move my body freely, so I will walk again wearing prosthetic legs. I won’t really have to depend on others. My body is not the same anymore, but I am still able to use what I have left. I will do everything in a way that I can. The important part is that I can! I am blessed that it ended the way it did. I will come back to life.”

I was so consumed by my sudden realization that I didn’t hear what mom was saying. And as I was having this inner dialogue, I felt how everything was changing within the core of my being, specifically in what I noticed and how I perceived my situation. Instead of looking at my losses and limitations, I saw how much I actually was able to do.

Instead of despair, I felt enlightenment. It felt as though with every breath, I was gaining the hope that I would have a way out of this hopeless place in my life. As I was being rolled in the wheelchair through the forest, in my mind I was building a strategic plan to end this rolling in the wheelchair business to bring myself back to life. “

The time in a Rehab Center was the most painful and difficult time I can remember. But, it was a pivotal time.  The realization that I have so much to be thankful and how much I was able to do, transformed the way I saw my new life and the way I felt about it. I understood that my life experience will greatly depend on what I focus on. Since then, I began changing my thinking.

Instead of thinking that I no longer was able to do something because I did not have my legs and could not use my left arm, I looked from a different angle – I can think clearly, I can move my body and I still can use my right arm – there must be a way for me to be self-sufficient, how can I use what I have to achieve what I desire? I focused on the opportunities and possibilities rather than what was destroyed in my life and how many doors were shut because of my physical limitations. Instead of dwelling on how I no longer could go out of my home and do the work that I used to be able to, I looked from a different angle – what are the possibilities for me to go out of my home, how could I manage things independently, and what kind of work I could do in my situation? And then, while focusing on my abilities and opportunities, I was seeking for the solution to build my future rather than dwelling on the problem and grieving about what’s no longer there.

Imagine a race with hurdles. When an athlete runs close to the hurdle (obstacle), he jumps over it and continues to run. When he gets close to the next hurdle – he overcomes this as well and races until he reaches the finish line. The interesting thing is that while the runner sees every hurdle ahead, his eyes are not on the next hurdle, but where the finish line is. His focus is the destination, not obstacles on the way. I know this because I used to be an athletic runner when I was a teenager. We were taught not to focus on the hurdle, but always to focus ahead where the race was ending. Why? Focusing on the hurdle most of the time resulted in the failure to overcome it, and the chances of winning were reduced. The major focus was the final destination; hurdles were just obstacles along the way which we needed to overcome and continue on running no matter what until we reached the finish line.

That’s the mindset I had when aiming for my goal. My eyes were set on my ultimate goal where I was going, and difficulties were something I needed to overcome so I could continue my race until I reach my final destination. Obstacles are there to be overcome, and not something that could stop me.

Now I see that I unconsciously had the same thought pattern every time:

  • During difficult times, I never focused on hardships, no matter how difficult or painful they were.
  • My mental eyes were always directed toward my final destination.
  • The immediate focus was on the work I had to do to attain my goal.

It’s one of the most important key points in self-management that played a major role in my ability to break through the obstacles or handle hardships when it felt unbearable.

Now, after a while, I can see that such mindset, by concentrating not on the problem but on its solution, strongly and consistently moved me forward. Managing my focus empowered me to aim and achieve goals that others said were unattainable for me. And then, this skill empowered me to move across the globe from my family and establish my life in the United States even though at the time of my decision I had no place to live, no work, not a lot of money, and even no right to live and work in America.

If I had looked at those challenging situations as if they were insolvable problems and focused on how difficult it was, I know I would have been stuck and it would have taken much longer to achieve my goals. In fact, most likely I would not have reached them at all. If I had focused on my limitations, what I have lost and what I could not do anymore, my life would be miserable. In comparison, focusing on my abilities and opportunities and solutions empowered me to attain life’s transformation.

When facing a difficult situation, instead of being worried or stressed out about the problem, begin immediately to focus on the solution. And then, make every effort to solve the problem the best way you can.

In my next message, I will share how to focus on the solution and how to find it.

Meanwhile, be Unstoppable. It’s a Choice.

Inga

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