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How to Fulfill Your Resolutions. Step 1.

How to Fulfill Your Resolutions. Step 1.

Happy New Year 2020! I hope you had a beautiful Holiday Season, and you opened a fresh new chapter of your life’s book.

The New Year’s wishes sound nice and hopeful and now we are back to a routine. The question is – will you leave those wishes as your wishful thinking or are you going to make them happen?

How are you going to spend this year of your life? What intentions do you have for this year? Do you have a CLEAR VISION of WHERE YOU ARE GOING? If you do not have a vision, if you do not have a goal for a specific purpose – you are going nowhere. Then it’s not you who designs your life, but the outside circumstances created by random events and other people’s agendas and their decisions. This way, you will live another year day by day reacting to whatever circumstances throw at you and trying to handle it all.

But what about your purpose, your goals that you would like to fulfill?

Many disregard the goal setting, saying “the resolutions and goal setting doesn’t work” or, “It’s impossible”. They look at the goal and if it seems not achievable at that point, they say “It can’t be done, so why try.”

Before the car accident, I didn’t even have the concept of creating the life you desire by achieving your goals. But after losing my legs and ability to use my left arm, I took the goal achievement seriously. I could not come in to terms with my new way of life being shut at my house with no opportunity to have a life of full value, and I made the decision to change it all.My dream seemed to be an absurd. Unachievable fantasy. But I never questioned whether it was possible or not, nor did I allow myself to think in terms of how big my aspirations were nor how small chances were of making them come true. I decided what I wanted and started aiming to achieve it.

Since my ultimate vision to live a full life and not to depend on anybody seemed absolutely impossible, I began with small goals and small steps to move myself forward. When I was discharged from the hospital and began my rehabilitation process, my first goals were to be self-sufficient in my simple daily routine: independently roll over in bed, sit up from a lying position; then independently dress, make a cup of coffee and my breakfast – all using one hand. Now those memories make me smile. At the time, every such activity was a huge challenge to me, requiring tremendous effort, consistent attempts and perseverance. Every time I was able to do something independently was a huge victory to me and a step closer to my ultimate aspiration.

By aiming and achieving my little goals, it strengthened me and increased my confidence for achieving my greater goals. Over time, these small achieved successes compounded; they changed my position. I came out of ICU having absolutely no strength and no ability to do anything independently, except open/close my eyes or speak (and even the latter required efforts), and after half of the year I was staying at the Orthopedic Center in another city able to take care of myself independently and training to walk with artificial legs. As time flew by, I was setting bigger goals which, three years later, resulted in traveling independently across the globe to the USA, laying the groundwork for completely changing my life circumstances.

With God’s help and the strength that I received from Him, I successfully overcame my obstacles and today I live independently in spite of my injuries. I realized the dream that at some point seemed an absurd, an unachievable fantasy. Goals and aspirations can have a significant value in life if you take the process seriously and work consistently and diligently to achieve it.

The team of BECOMING UNSTOPPABLE wishes you a purposeful, meaningful, abundant and successful New Year of 2020!

So how to set goals and how to achieve them? In the upcoming posts I will share with you further tips on how to achieve your goals. This is the model that transformed my life after the tragedy and worked every time I wanted to achieve a goal. 

Meanwhile, the first step is – determine the vision of what you want to implement in your life. Vision – it is the destination where you want to arrive, the ultimate picture of your success. It’s the point of reference you are always working toward, and when all your plans and goals are fully accomplished, this is where you will be.

  • Where do you want to be in 10 years? 5 years? A year from now?
  • What does success look like for you, for your life?
  • What needs to change in your life for you to feel content and good about you/your life?
  • What would make your year a great year?
  • What will things look like after you’ve been successful?

See the picture in your mind. Before you set your goals as stepping stones, it’s important to have a clear vision, your final destination of where you want to go in life. It has to be clear, so you know exactly where you are going.

Don’t worry about how to implement it or how difficult it seems to achieve it. First, know exactly WHAT you want to achieve and WHY. The HOW will come later.

Pray about it; bring it before the Lord in your prayer. Some choose to meditate, some choose to visualize, or use hypnotic methods and other. I personally bring my vision and my plans to the Lord in my prayer. Prayer does make a difference in the physical realm. I experienced a tremendous blessing when I began practicing what’s written in the Holy Scriptures. In fact, many unexpected good turns and blessings came into my life after I prayed about and surrendered my vision, my plans to the Lord.

Commit your works to the LORD, and your thoughts will be established. Proverbs 16:3

Commit your way to the LORD, Trust also in Him, and He shall bring it to pass. Psalms 37:5

Ask Him to help you accomplish it. Ask the Lord to direct you according to His will and give you the wisdom how to successfully implement those plans. Ask Him to bless your efforts so that you would not fail, but achieve your goals.

In the next post, we’ll talk further about important aspects of goal setting and their achievement.

Be Unstoppable. It‘s a Choice.

Inga

P.s. My personal story of how I overcome the tragedy and insurmountable obstacles, and successfully achieved my vision, you can find in my book “UNSTOPPABLE. It’s a Choice.” In addition to a story that will inspire you, you will find helpful tips that will empower you in your personal journey.

 
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Feel defeated by problems and failed from past mistakes? Turn this around and make your experience work for you.

Happy New Year to you! I hope you enjoyed the beautiful Holiday Season, sharing your time with family and loved ones. And now, it’s a new year. It’s a new beginning. I noticed that in December more people have subscribed to my Blog. You made me smile, and I thank you for that!

As we all start a new year, many of us take the time to see what kind of year it was for us, and then we make new resolutions for the new year. This time I am inspired to write an article about how to deal with past mistakes or failure to achieve goals in a way that will empower you, instead drowning into gloomy feeling of failure and regret. Usually, among all the goodness and joy of success, life also has storms, and I want to share something that will empower you, if you did have some problems and failure to meet your goals successfully. Also, I want to share a resource about goals that will give you some ideas and insights how to actually achieve your goals and implement your New Year resolutions. This is a video with Michael Hyatt. I personally found this video very valuable, and you will see the link to it at the end.

But before looking into new goals and new resolutions, I wanted to share what I call a Self-Management tool that has greatly empowered me in my own journey. Every one of us go through trials, difficulties and we don’t always achieve all of our goals. Normally, looking back into difficult situations or goals that we wished to achieve but for whatever reason we didn’t, doesn’t make us feel good, right? 🙂 It may make us feel disappointed, upset, sad, failed and similar. Well, there is something you can do to turn this around. You still can feel the progress and and find the value when you look at your problems and failure to implement your goals. It is important because not having control over your own thoughts and feelings about your past mistakes makes a big impact on your esteem and confidence, which automatically affects your decisions and actions in the future. It all ties up in one unit. Our successful or not successful results greatly depend on our inner state. It is just one of the many key components, but is a critical one.

Normally, difficulties bring up negative emotions. Failure to achieve goals cause pain as well. But here is the trick: you will feel negative about it all only if you look at it from a perspective that makes you focus on the pain, hardship, failure and defeat. What if you look at it from a different perspective? Every situation has two sides of the coin –  good and bad.  You already know what the bad side looks like, and dwelling on it will only make you miserable. So, instead of focusing on the hardship and pain, asking yourself questions that bring even more pain, shift your focus on the other side – what is the value of it all?  Instead of dwelling on the fact that you did not achieve what you were aiming for or blaming yourself for making poor choices and wrong decisions, ask yourself questions, which will deliver answers that will  show you the value in all that had happened. Look at the good side of the coin and spend more time analyzing that side. You will be surprised what you will see! You will  see very valuable lessons in those situations. You will know what Not to do and what you can do better next time. You will have valuable insights. You will see what Lord was doing with your heart behind those difficult circumstances. You will learn something new about yourself. You will see testimonies of the power of prayer and unshakable faith. You will see a lot of good in all those problems and not achieving goals. I personally don’t even regret about tough times, because I see a great value in it all. I would not like to repeat it, but I honestly am glad I have gone through it and would not trade it now, because I see a lot of lessons that will greatly benefit me in the future.

So how to turn this around? First of all, ask yourself a question that will deliver you the answers that will empower you instead of the answers that will make you dive in to sadness and defeat. Ask yourself questions that will make you see the value in your experience, will equip you with lessons for the future and will give you direction what you can do to improve your circumstances and your strategy to implement your vision.

If you had made poor decisions or faced some tough problems, some of the questions you can ask yourself:

“What am I supposed to learn from this?”

“What insight does it bring to me?”

“What have I learned from this particular situation, which I would not have learned otherwise?”

“What purpose does this have in my journey?”

“What conclusions and lessons am I getting, so I know how to do better in the future?”

If you miss your goal and did not get to implement your vision, you may ask yourself:

“What can I learn from this?”

“What held me back from achieving it?”

“What do I need to change in order to get it this time?”

“What skills or knowledge do I need to acquire?”

“What can I extract from this experience that is beneficial for my future efforts to achieve my goal?”

Asking the right question will bring your attention to the value instead of the failure. Then, be in charge of your Focus. You will see that, which you choose to focus on. Are you going to focus on your poor choices and blame yourself for it, or are you going to focus on the lesson and the value this situation has brought into your life? Are you going to focus on the fact that you missed your goal and feel like a failure, or are you going to focus on the lesson and insights that you have extracted and will be determined to get it this time? This internal process will have a great impact on your inner state and your future decisions.

I am not saying we should neglect poor decisions and just be “positive“, pretending that everything is fine, no.  It is necessary to face the truth, but the purpose of it is to learn and see where we need to make changes, instead of blaming ourselves and feeling bad about it all. Make yourself a rule – the only reason for me to look back to my mistakes, wrong choices or not achieved goals is to seek for value in it.  It may sound like a cliche and too simple for it to do some big change. But please trust me, applying this simple rule will make a significant change in your life.

So, by equipping yourself with learned lessons from your mistakes and by extracting from them insights, empowering conclusions, understanding and new inspirations, you will grow. You will see that problems and tough circumstances can strengthen you. Mistakes can make you wiser and more insightful. All difficulties and mistakes can work for you, if you choose them to play this role for you.

And now, leaving mistakes, regret and pain behind, enter your new year with all valuable insights and lessons that you extracted from difficult situations and circumstances. At this point, you are stronger, wiser and better equipped to conquer your future challenges. This new year you will do better, because you have learned what Not to do and What you can do better. As you are starting your new year, imagine you just opened a new chapter of your life book, where you will write countless incredible testimonies of God’s love and help, new exciting changes, implemented goals and joyous experiences.

And here is the video about designing your 2015 by setting and achieving your goals. I found this video very inspiring and instructional. It has a lot of great insights and ideas how to set and successfully achieve your goals. Click on the link below:

http://resolutions.bestyearever.me/

Hope this brought you some value and empowered you to shake off the dust and set yourself up to win the game! Make your year of 2015 a significant one!

If you have other ways that empower you to deal with past mistakes, please post it below to share it with the rest of us. If you want to reach me personally, please feel free to email me at inga_unstoppable@outlook.com

May God bless you in your journey to have continued success!

Be Strong.  Be Determined and Persistent. Be Unstoppable.

Yours truly, Inga 🙂

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Stay committed to your decision and never, never give up

Greetings to Everyone, and Happy New Year!

I am new to the blogging, so this is my very first posting.:) 

 As we start our new year, I want to encourage everyone to be committed to your dream, to your purpose, to your desire. In the beginning of the year a lot of people set big and small goals that they want to accomplish. It became a tradition to have New Year resolutions, which everyone enthusiastically talks about. And then life takes its course by having disappointments, problems, and unexpected turns. It’s not the New Year resolution, which you made on a New Year’s Eve that will get you to accomplish what you want. It is a commitment to your goal. It is not giving up when you face obstacles, challenges or problems that you will meet in your life. It is not being discouraged and doing it anyway when you see that your goal is nearly impossible. It is a commitment and not giving up on your dream that will get you to where you want to be. 

..When I realized that I have lost my both legs and that my left arm was irrecoverably paralyzed, it seemed that every tiny fraction of my being screamed out of pain “Why! Why it had to be so cruel?!” I was shocked. I was scared. I was lost. It was a car accident that turned my life around when I was just 22 years old. My boyfriend was killed, and I almost lost my life as well. When I perceived my condition, I found myself not being to move or speak. In addition to the fact that I lost both legs, my left arm was paralyzed, I had other multiple severe injuries, which resulted me being able to just open and close my eyes. This crash completely destroyed everything that made my life beautiful and exciting. I lost my exciting career and activities with my friends, and everything that I was doing. in addition to that I lost half of my body and became confined to a wheelchair. From being healthy, beautiful, confident and active I woke up being weak, helpless and totally dependent on other people. I was blessed to have my family and friends, who were there with me and for me. But I had to face a very cruel reality. I was only 22, and had to accept what happened and figure out how I was going to continue my life. I decided that I was not going to blame my boyfriend, God or destiny for what had happened. I understood that blaming, crying and idol dissatisfaction about what happened will not change anything, nor will it improve my situation. I knew I had to fight for my life. I completely refused to accept people’s suggestions to give in because this is my destiny. I said to them that with my God’s help I will create the destiny I desire. I will do whatever it takes to change it all and I will live a beautiful life in spite of it all. So…after I healed I started my journey, fully trusting that with God’s help I will recover my life. I was walking through the valleys of tears and pain.. There were so many times when it seemed impossible and I was tired, disappointed, hurt and had no strength to take another step in life. So many times my circumstances looked at me ironically smiling and said “You have no choice. Just give up” So many times I heard people saying that what I was trying to accomplish was impossible and should just give up and do something different. But I had my vision and deeply trusted that my God will help me to get through it all and I was ready to do whatever it takes to realize my dream. I still would make an effort to take another breath, get up and take another step. And then, I took another step…and then another one. I have fallen down many times and got hurt. I felt discouraged again and again. I did have to face fear and hear suggestions to let it go and accept my circumstances the way they were. But my Lord gave me strength and I again would make another step… I had a vision that I will live a full active lifestyle in spite of my injuries and worked toward my dream goal.
It was a long tough journey, but I arrived. I set the goals for myself, which step-by-step transformed my life from not being able to move or speak to travelling across the world by myself and building my life all over again in a foreign country. Today, having tears of joy I say that I literally live my dream that seemed impossible.  I live across the globe from my family, live by myself and take care of all the household matters by myself, work, travel, have a lot of wonderful friends….just live an amazing life. It is scary to even think about what my life would be like, if I gave up…?

 … Success is not just a random thing that drops out of the blue sky. Success is a result. Determination and persistence are required in order to achieve anything in life. You have to be as a drop of water that by consistent drop polishes and finally breaks down the rock. If you don’t have a successful result right when you want it, it does not mean that you never are going to have it. Maybe you just need to put a little bit more effort in what you do. Or maybe you need to change your approach. How would you feel, if after giving up on your dream, you would find out that all you needed to do was find out a little bit more information and think a little differently to figure out how you could implement your desire? What if you had achieved it if you pushed a little further, a little bit harder? Or..maybe you needed to just take a one more step…? Try again and again. Know that there is always a solution; you just need to find it. Try until you reach it. You run, walk, take step after step, crawl. It doesn’t matter how fast you will move, but do whatever it takes to keep moving forward. And there will be a day when you reach your finish line and will smile… You have achieved it anyway. And where would you be..if you gave up?

 Lastly, I just wanted to say…. really, the easiest way is to sit and complain, blame someone else for your problems or to say to yourself and the rest of the world “Probably this is my destiny” or “I am not that strong” and just simply go along with whatever life gives you. It is easy to stop fighting and give up. Giving up doesn’t require any talent…nor it needs the effort.. Usually this is the choice of someone, who seeks for an excuse why he lives the way he does instead of making an effort to take charge of his life and make the change. It’s the choice of an easier route, but this way a person can waste many years of a beautiful life being in pain, hate and anger.

 It requires a lot of strength though to look up and say that life is going to be good in spite of all. Yes, it requires strength and courage. It requires determination to look straight into the eyes of occurred problems and fear, and say that you will change your circumstances and you will live your life the way you want. It does require perseverance and patience to go against the stream. And only those, who really have a desire to win in life, go against the stream if they need to. They don’t allow negative emotions take over and dominate. They do whatever it takes hold on to their faith and hope that will show them the path in the dark and will give them the strength to move on. Yes, it is not easy, but it’s that kind of people that are able to change their circumstances and create the life that they desire..
So be strong…keep moving forward and win.

~ Inga Lizdenyte

 

 

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