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Commitment to your vision

Commitment to your vision
This week I was reminded about one of the ingredients that went into my life pie.:) Remember, in my earlier posting I said that just like you need numerous ingredients to make a pie, it takes several important things to handle various unfavorable situations in life, overcome obstacles or achieve what you want,?:)
One of the things that helped me to get through the most challenging times was a Commitment to my vision. I did not “wish” a better life. I had a burning desire to have a better life. I wanted get back into active full lifestyle and I was committed to making it happen.

Goosebumps go through my body when I remember those years, when I was training to walk with artificial legs. It was exhausting work and endless pain. Every step I made felt like someone was stabbing me with a knife. Still, I was learning to make those steps, just so I can walk again. After walking for 1.5 hrs, my thighs were swolen, covered with bruzes, sores and even opened wounds. I would put the medicine and the bandage on the sores, and would train again. My decision to walk again was non-negotiable. Even though realistically It seemed impossible for me to walk and I was told so many times I should just leave that alone and take a different strategy for my life, I kept training and going for my dream. I was so committed that I did not even listen to people’s opinions nor did I negotiate with pain, my mood or daily “want and don’t want”. The time came when I did reach my dream. I did walk. There is no way I would have walked again, if I was not fully committed to my dream.

When 8 years ago I decided to go to California to see how I could establish myself in this beautiful land, I had absolutely no means or guarantees to implement my idea. I did not have a place to live, did not have a lot of money and did not have a job. I did not even have the right to live and work in the country. I knew English pretty well, but I hardly understood Americans. In addition to that, I had no idea how I could move around independently in the manual wheelchair, cook meals for myself with one hand and just generally take care of myself being in such physical condition that I am. The idea of living in California seemed very exciting, of course, but I was in a very tough position – I had absolutely no resources to make it happen. I had my faith in God, several Americans who loved me, my suitcase and a dream.:) That’s how I started… I put my faith in God and myself I was fully committed to make it happen regardless of how much effort and work it would take. Today I live the dream that seemed nearly impossible… In fact, I have more than I could have ever dreamed of…

The interesting thing was my mindset: when I decided to go to America. I did not go to “try” establish myself there. I was going to do it. I did not leave any alternative to myself. I knew I would live in California before I even flew down here. I had no idea how I could possibly implement my desire, but there was no doubt that I would succeed. Yes, it required determination, devotion, hard work, and persistence. I was very blessed in whatever I did and was protected from evil, but it did take a lot of effort and hard work. Of course there were times when it seemed I would have given away anything just so I can be at home in Lithuania with my family and friends. But I knew I could not just drop everything and leave.The full commitment to my dream pushed me forward through the difficult times. My commitment to the outcome moves me forward up to this day, and I am holding that standard.

…The obstacles, challenges and various problems will come into your life, whether you want it or not. But if are truly committed, you will overcome it all. There might be the facts of your reality that ironically smiles at you saying that your goal is nearly impossible. But if you are truly commited to your vision – you will find a way to realize it.There cannot be “Trying to do it”. Don’t try. Just do it. Of course it is necessary to be wise about the decisions, but the truth is that you must be fully committed if you are going after some big vision, because obstacles will show up without a doubt. It’s what you are going to do when they come will determine your result. Trying is a state of mind when you allow the possibility of not making it happen. Commitment makes your decision non-negotiable. You will achieve what you want, because then you will be absolutely determined to do whatever it takes to realize your vision.

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Don’t stop

When you go home through the harsh rain and wind, you don’t stop in the middle of the way because it is cold and difficult to walk, right? You keep walking because you know where you are going, and if you just keep moving forward, you are going to get home,  where it’s warm and cozy. In fact, you hurry to get there faster.

It’s the same with life. Hold your sight on your vision and keep walking in spite of the life storms. Don’t stop. Keep moving forward knowing that you are going to reach your vision soon or later.

 

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Stay committed to your decision and never, never give up

Greetings to Everyone, and Happy New Year!

I am new to the blogging, so this is my very first posting.:) 

 As we start our new year, I want to encourage everyone to be committed to your dream, to your purpose, to your desire. In the beginning of the year a lot of people set big and small goals that they want to accomplish. It became a tradition to have New Year resolutions, which everyone enthusiastically talks about. And then life takes its course by having disappointments, problems, and unexpected turns. It’s not the New Year resolution, which you made on a New Year’s Eve that will get you to accomplish what you want. It is a commitment to your goal. It is not giving up when you face obstacles, challenges or problems that you will meet in your life. It is not being discouraged and doing it anyway when you see that your goal is nearly impossible. It is a commitment and not giving up on your dream that will get you to where you want to be. 

..When I realized that I have lost my both legs and that my left arm was irrecoverably paralyzed, it seemed that every tiny fraction of my being screamed out of pain “Why! Why it had to be so cruel?!” I was shocked. I was scared. I was lost. It was a car accident that turned my life around when I was just 22 years old. My boyfriend was killed, and I almost lost my life as well. When I perceived my condition, I found myself not being to move or speak. In addition to the fact that I lost both legs, my left arm was paralyzed, I had other multiple severe injuries, which resulted me being able to just open and close my eyes. This crash completely destroyed everything that made my life beautiful and exciting. I lost my exciting career and activities with my friends, and everything that I was doing. in addition to that I lost half of my body and became confined to a wheelchair. From being healthy, beautiful, confident and active I woke up being weak, helpless and totally dependent on other people. I was blessed to have my family and friends, who were there with me and for me. But I had to face a very cruel reality. I was only 22, and had to accept what happened and figure out how I was going to continue my life. I decided that I was not going to blame my boyfriend, God or destiny for what had happened. I understood that blaming, crying and idol dissatisfaction about what happened will not change anything, nor will it improve my situation. I knew I had to fight for my life. I completely refused to accept people’s suggestions to give in because this is my destiny. I said to them that with my God’s help I will create the destiny I desire. I will do whatever it takes to change it all and I will live a beautiful life in spite of it all. So…after I healed I started my journey, fully trusting that with God’s help I will recover my life. I was walking through the valleys of tears and pain.. There were so many times when it seemed impossible and I was tired, disappointed, hurt and had no strength to take another step in life. So many times my circumstances looked at me ironically smiling and said “You have no choice. Just give up” So many times I heard people saying that what I was trying to accomplish was impossible and should just give up and do something different. But I had my vision and deeply trusted that my God will help me to get through it all and I was ready to do whatever it takes to realize my dream. I still would make an effort to take another breath, get up and take another step. And then, I took another step…and then another one. I have fallen down many times and got hurt. I felt discouraged again and again. I did have to face fear and hear suggestions to let it go and accept my circumstances the way they were. But my Lord gave me strength and I again would make another step… I had a vision that I will live a full active lifestyle in spite of my injuries and worked toward my dream goal.
It was a long tough journey, but I arrived. I set the goals for myself, which step-by-step transformed my life from not being able to move or speak to travelling across the world by myself and building my life all over again in a foreign country. Today, having tears of joy I say that I literally live my dream that seemed impossible.  I live across the globe from my family, live by myself and take care of all the household matters by myself, work, travel, have a lot of wonderful friends….just live an amazing life. It is scary to even think about what my life would be like, if I gave up…?

 … Success is not just a random thing that drops out of the blue sky. Success is a result. Determination and persistence are required in order to achieve anything in life. You have to be as a drop of water that by consistent drop polishes and finally breaks down the rock. If you don’t have a successful result right when you want it, it does not mean that you never are going to have it. Maybe you just need to put a little bit more effort in what you do. Or maybe you need to change your approach. How would you feel, if after giving up on your dream, you would find out that all you needed to do was find out a little bit more information and think a little differently to figure out how you could implement your desire? What if you had achieved it if you pushed a little further, a little bit harder? Or..maybe you needed to just take a one more step…? Try again and again. Know that there is always a solution; you just need to find it. Try until you reach it. You run, walk, take step after step, crawl. It doesn’t matter how fast you will move, but do whatever it takes to keep moving forward. And there will be a day when you reach your finish line and will smile… You have achieved it anyway. And where would you be..if you gave up?

 Lastly, I just wanted to say…. really, the easiest way is to sit and complain, blame someone else for your problems or to say to yourself and the rest of the world “Probably this is my destiny” or “I am not that strong” and just simply go along with whatever life gives you. It is easy to stop fighting and give up. Giving up doesn’t require any talent…nor it needs the effort.. Usually this is the choice of someone, who seeks for an excuse why he lives the way he does instead of making an effort to take charge of his life and make the change. It’s the choice of an easier route, but this way a person can waste many years of a beautiful life being in pain, hate and anger.

 It requires a lot of strength though to look up and say that life is going to be good in spite of all. Yes, it requires strength and courage. It requires determination to look straight into the eyes of occurred problems and fear, and say that you will change your circumstances and you will live your life the way you want. It does require perseverance and patience to go against the stream. And only those, who really have a desire to win in life, go against the stream if they need to. They don’t allow negative emotions take over and dominate. They do whatever it takes hold on to their faith and hope that will show them the path in the dark and will give them the strength to move on. Yes, it is not easy, but it’s that kind of people that are able to change their circumstances and create the life that they desire..
So be strong…keep moving forward and win.

~ Inga Lizdenyte

 

 

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